Dream Killers: How To Spot and Avoid Them.
Fire false friends as early as possible. Do it before they dig out the dream seeds you've planted! ~ I. Ayivor Click To Tweet
You may know where you want to go, but you’re nowhere near the right road. Maybe you keep getting sidetracked by people and things that seem great at the time, but only lead you further off course. Though it may seem harsh to refer to them by such a title, these things are Dream Killers. If you don’t know how to recognize them before they affect you and prevent yourself from derailing, you’ll never achieve your full potential and realize the success you deserve. Here are 5 types to be on the look out for.
Things That Are Too Good to Be True
You’ll run into people who whisper sweet-nothings to you, promising you a better future that requires relatively little effort on your part. These things are almost never what they seem. While most people are genuine and honest, others make their living swindling others by engaging their naïve hopes. That’s why people get sucked into pyramid schemes that end up driving them into debt.
If something seems too good to be true, you’re best to assume it is. Doing a little detective work can help you avoid a catastrophe. Always research your opportunities through unbiased sources and make a conscious decision to avoid the things that might seem too good to be true, as they will only stop you from achieving your dream.
People Who Use Guilt Manipulation
Guilt manipulation and emotional blackmail are the downfall of many, especially if the affected individual has a strong sense of empathy. You may feel tempted to sacrifice your personal success in favor of what you perceive to be the wellbeing of those around you.
People who truly have your best interests in mind would never suggest that you make those sacrifices. They’ll want to lift you up and help you succeed. Never entertain selfish banter that juxtaposes someone else’s needs against your personal success. If these people are important to you, you may not be able to avoid them entirely. It may serve you better to ignore them until they’ve exhausted themselves.
Agendas That Can Overshadow Yours
In following your dreams, you’ll be faced with risks. You need to determine which risks are the right ones to take. There are people who will be happy to provide real support, help you weighing in on the pros and cons of your impending decisions. Some of them are trying to help you, and others are trying to push you off of the ledge for their own benefit.
The best way to avoid these situations would be to consider the circumstances. How close are you to the individual who claims they are trying to help you? Are they trustworthy by reputation? Remember that it’s okay to consider the advice of others, but at the end of the day, you alone know your situation best. It’s up to you to decide what will work best for your life plan, and the decisions you make should be based on what you feel is best for your future.
Those Who Don’t Know When to Let it Go
We all make mistakes. Sometimes, we wrong people unintentionally. Other times, we do things in the heat of the moment that we wouldn’t do again if we had a second chance. If you want to find success, you’re going to have to face failures. Supportive figures in your live don’t exist to constantly remind you of your failures, and you need to tune out people who are quick to remind you of your shortcomings.
Avoiding this pitfall is easy. Cut these people out of your life. If they’re not doing anything positive for you, they’re dead weight pulling you to the ground before you can see the finish line.
If you’re paying close attention, you may have noticed that some of your friends or colleagues seem to be competing in a competition that doesn’t exist. You’re proud of your accomplishments and you’ve seen real success. They claim they’ve gone twice as far in half the time. At times, these people can make you feel like giving up.
The best way to avoid these situations is to listen to the language that these people use, and see how often they take this tactic. When you have the flu, do they develop an incurable disease? This person is probably insecure and knowingly lying. Stop sharing your accomplishments with these individuals. They’re only trying to bring you down to make themselves feel elevated.
Liberating yourself from Dream Killers isn’t just an excellent way to help you reach your ultimate goal — it will also remove a significant amount of stress from your life. Without all of these negative entities biting at your heels, you’ll be able to breathe a little easier, fly a little higher and reach your dreams a little sooner.