Stubborn negative thoughts are like poison to your brain. They will hinder you from making informed decisions and blur your perception about your life. If you want to achieve your career goals and objectives, you need to find ways of defeating these insidious creatures altogether. Unfortunately, there are no medications that you can take for this; you just have to train your body and mind to counter them.
Here are some gold-worthy tips on how to defeat the negative thoughts in your mind.
1) Be More Aware of What you think
One of the ways of getting rid of negative thoughts that plague your mind is by simply becoming more aware of what you think about. As often as possible. It is inevitable that you become what you spend most of your time thinking about; if you think that you are a failure, you are more likely to end up finding reasons why your goals and objectives aren’t achievable before you’ve even really tested your mettle. On the other hand, if you have more positive thoughts than not, and expect the best from every situation you find yourself in, it can lead to disappointment and delusion over time. Honing yourself to see your circumstances and your thoughts about them as realistically as possible, however, and relaxing your need for specific results while still pursuing what you want, will give you much better chances of finding yourself in a fulfilling and successful life down the road.
2) Confront your Fears
More often than not, the chains that prevent us from being free and achieving our objectives in life are more mental than physical. Hence, you need to come up with ways of confronting your fears to strengthen your mind and ultimately — after facing those fears — realize your hidden potential.
To do this, identify the specific things that you dread. Then, tune into how you’re thinking about them (see point one) and notice the currents of anxiety and fear they cause in you. Doing so, begin to breathe deeply and remind yourself that nothing is currently happening — they’re just thoughts! Realizing this, see if you can re-examine the fearful scenario(s) in a different, more calm and more realistic light. Is there a chance your being irrational?
When you feel ready — or, contrarily, even if you don’t (often it’s good to just do certain things even before you ‘feel’ ready) — go out and do some of those scary things. Start as small as possible, and work your way up from there. The more you actually do these things, the less scary they become, and the less scared of your own fears you will become.
3) Work on Your Body Language
Take a moment to evaluate your body language. If you are always frowning or slouching with a closed stance, chances are you have negative thoughts in your mind. Though it’s unknown to most people, bad language (not particularly ‘swear words’ but language that is deflating or hurtful to both ourselves and others) can affect your self-esteem and confidence in a big way, whether it’s coming from you or somebody else.
Based on this fact, it is recommended to simply smile more, open your stance, and sit up straight in the office or meeting. This will help to not only paint a positive image of yourself for the world — it will begin to re-enforce it in your own mind as well.
4) Meditate More Often
Meditation is one of the scientifically proven ways of becoming more aware of your thoughts. Find a quiet and serene spot at home or your workplace that you can sit down and listen to your inner self. As you meditate, focus on your life and everything that you are going through to get a clearer picture of things. If you can keep it up, the benefits you will reap are many:
- Decreased anxiety
- Improved emotional stability
- Increased creativity
- Better Intuition
You do not have to spend hours meditating, just 10-15 minutes per day is enough to alleviate negative thoughts and improve your overall wellness.
5) Be Creative
Sometimes, getting rid of negative thoughts seems impossible, especially if the cause of the problem has been tormenting you for days or months. Nonetheless, you can overcome these little demons by letting them be (don’t fight them) while spending more time doing creative things. Draw, paint, write, woodwork — whatever hobbies you have and love, do them! Research shows that exploring emotions by using creativity works like auto-therapy and can elevate your moods. This is known as the flow state. Often, as you engage in your creative task, plausible solutions to the challenges that you’re facing will arise on their own.
6) Change the Tone of Your Thoughts
Poor perspective is one of the leading causes of negative thoughts. To go more deeply into the suggestion in point 1, consider your perception of the things going on around you. Is it possible to change your opinion by thinking about ways of solving a problem instead of convincing yourself that you are going through a ‘rough patch’?
As an example, here are two sentences to help you understand this point:
1) I am not getting enough customers.
2) I am not getting enough customers, but I am working on new ways of marketing my products and reaching out to potential clients.
Both sentences have the same message, except the second one has more truth to it (if you are, in fact, doing do). Such a simple tonal shift, repeated again and again, can have a huge positive impact on your thinking patterns over time.
7) Talk it out
Sometimes, negative thinking occurs when you have emotions or issues that you need to let go of. It will do you no good to keep things that are stressing you out to yourself. If you have a problem that needs to be addressed, find the time to talk about it with a close friend or a professional counselor. Doing so will help you get more of a handle on how to go about improving your thoughts. For instance, the counselor can give you expert, trained insights on how to deal with stressful situations, anxiety, depression, etc.
Indeed, it is possible to defeat the stubborn, negative thoughts in your mind! Just follow the 7 points outlined here and you are well on your way.